Information Sharing

Information Sharing

Has it ever happened to you that just because of a misguided opinion about one person, you alter everything you do? I mean, change the smallest irrelevant things in our lives just because we don’t want the person to copy or know about us. We want to make the person jealous and envious of us. Well, this just happened to me.

I’m fairly new to building websites and being a perfectionist, I wanted to come out with a bang. I didn’t want a crappy looking website. I discarded advice from people who insisted I focus more on my contents than looks. I wasn’t buying that. I am the type of person who browses websites a lot and the colours, layouts, and feature of websites intrigues me. I knew how I wanted my blog to look and settling for less wasn’t an option.

Really desperate for a good website, I went as far as consulting one of my friends Abiodun who is a website developer to teach me certain codes. He taught me different web-building platforms I could use in building my website. I was totally clueless because it wasn’t my area of expertise. To top it all, I didn’t have enough money to pay him to help me do it. He was extremely awesome. He was so patient he spent hours on Skype with me trying to teach me HTML codes.

Back to the main discussion. Before I purchased my website theme, I was building my blog with a free theme on WordPress. The layouts were horrible but, I noticed that some people were able to work their way around it. While trying to make the best out of the free template I chose, I decided to seek help from other bloggers who I know built their websites with the free templates because I couldn’t find certain plugins to make it look the way I wanted.

The responses I got from them were shocking. The majority of them refused to tell me. I heard all sorts of stories on how they struggled but not what or how to build a site. They strategically avoided telling me. While inquiring about plugins, some said they couldn’t remember which plugin they used despite me telling them where to find them (Plugin section, DUH!).

One said he didn’t know what plugins are despite building his blog himself. Most just said I should pay someone to do it (I’m very sure I remember telling them I was broke).  Hmmm… Do I really understand all these excuses? I wasn’t asking about their business ideas or the secret to their recipes, I was asking about website design. Website development isn’t a topic that should be kept a secret. A lot of websites have their web developer’s name at the footer. So why the hush hush?

Eventually, I gave up and settled to buy a professional WordPress theme. I was going through one of my favourite Blog (Patricia Bright) and I saw at the bottom of her website her website developer’s name; Pipdig. They have a variety of custom-made templates that are modern and classy, suited specially for bloggers. Their themes are highly responsive and come with inbuilt necessary plugins. I didn’t have to install any plugins at all. Now, this is what I’m talking about. I was ecstatic about my new look, so much so I couldn’t contain myself. I stare at my website every minute on my phone. My website looks the bomb dot com.

While playing around with different features on my blog, I notice that my footer has “WordPress Theme by Pipdig” written on it. I immediately wanted that gone. I didn’t want the people who refused to tell me how they built their website see it. I wanted them to be jealous, and when they ask me who built it, I will shout MEEEEEEEEEEE! I wanted to keep it to myself and hope they understand. I didn’t want them buying this theme or any theme from Pipdig. I didn’t want their websites looking anything like mine. I wanted to be unique in comparison to theirs. Boy was I looking forward to the look on their faces.

As someone with limited knowledge of website design, I searched endlessly for ways to remove it and I even consulted the Pipdig. While asking them, it dawned on me that taking the post off the footer will immediately affect the promotion of another person’s hard work. Another person’s means of livelihood will be affected by my selfish interest. My selfish act to make a few people jealous would have impacted negatively on someone else. It was at this point that I realised how far I was willing to go just because of a few people. I was looking out for my own personal interest. I felt selfish and self-centred.

Philippians 2:3-4 says: Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

As annoying as it is that some people will not share information with you, do not be like them. It’s not worth it. I don’t hold a grudge against these people and I really wish them well. I’m not a saint as I too have withheld information from people but, I struggle a lot when I purposely withhold information.  I’ve learned to just share it, especially if it will help someone. I love sharing information with people because I believe that information is the key to success.

Withholding information that can be beneficial to people is selfish and self-centred. Let’s be honest here, the vast majority of information we hold did not originate from us. We heard it from others, therefore; you hold a duty to share it just as someone else shared it with you. Also, let us remember that certain information especially business wise helps the business owner grow. If you want your business to grow then learn to share. If you are aware of information that can help others grow their business or relationships, please share. God will reward you. Remember, what goes around comes around.

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21 Comments

  1. Bukola Mogaji
    January 1, 2017 / 5:34 PM

    I absolutely love this write up. It is very realistic, thumbs up Bukky.

    • beesther
      January 1, 2017 / 5:44 PM

      Thank you dear..

  2. Funmi
    January 2, 2017 / 9:46 AM

    Lovely write up sis.

    • beesther
      January 2, 2017 / 10:40 AM

      Thank you sis

  3. Godchic
    January 2, 2017 / 11:14 AM

    This write up is funny but so realistic and so true. Lots of people struggle with information sharing, and i know i used to. Good one babe. Kudos.

    • beesther
      January 2, 2017 / 2:42 PM

      Thank you so much…

  4. Ibijoke Shallangwa
    January 14, 2017 / 10:56 AM

    Hahaha I just kept laughing…. but seriously why are people just like this, I love to teach I love to share why I know sometimes I tell myself “Joke you talk too much” hehehe…. good job sis, lovely write up and my best part is “the bomb dot com”

    • beesther
      January 14, 2017 / 11:13 AM

      Thanks Joke… I’m glad you enjoyed it… Cheers

  5. Ranti
    January 18, 2017 / 12:34 PM

    Oh my… I can relate to this in so many ways. It’s like people think the information they know is their birth right and why they refuse to share is totally beyond me.

    • beesther
      January 18, 2017 / 12:37 PM

      Lol. People just need to learn how to share. Information is key to success. Thank you Ranti

  6. January 19, 2017 / 10:01 PM

    This is such a good read. Glad you didn’t follow or give in to the urge to be petty.

    • beesther
      January 19, 2017 / 10:37 PM

      Thank you..

  7. Stella
    March 2, 2017 / 7:45 PM

    Good read!

    • beesther
      March 2, 2017 / 7:57 PM

      Thank you 😊

  8. March 17, 2017 / 1:26 PM

    Words that I have heard before. Reaching out for help and being shot down. Why because if you help me I will be your competition? I will single handedly take you down. I would be happy to help if I could and appreciate the help I have gotten along the way. Your site looks great. You put a lot of thought and hard work into it and it’s nice you are proud of it.

  9. March 18, 2017 / 12:49 AM

    Very funny and realistic. I waited too long to change mine. I still want some color changes. It’s always a work in progress my friend.

  10. Ola
    March 18, 2017 / 1:29 AM

    I wasn’t sure at first where this story was going, but it was so well told, that I couldn’t stop reading. LOL! I’m glad that you came to the best possible conclusion. A friend of mine always says that half of the people in the world exist to put the other half to the test. But as you have shown, Bible-based principles never fail.

    • Ola
      March 18, 2017 / 1:30 AM

      By the way… I LOVE Patricia Bright too! 🙂

  11. March 18, 2017 / 4:48 AM

    Great post that I can relate to

  12. March 18, 2017 / 7:02 AM

    Very true about selfishness.I think many can’t tell u how they did it because they have not actually done it .Just pretended.So glad you kept the theme developers name on .I have it on too.Great post

  13. March 21, 2017 / 10:13 PM

    Girl, God bless this post. Nope, I am not being sarcastic. I am actually on the “asking” phase” on the being “ignored” phase. More people should think like you. Thank you for sharing this post!

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